Having a healthy and satisfying relationship is one of the most rewarding things we can do in our life. So, why is it so hard to have the relationship we want with the person we love? We fight, argue, distance ourselves and often feel disconnected from the one we love the most. The trouble is that we are not born knowing how to have a good relationship. The idea that good relationships are easy is a myth. Great relationships take work and that’s where Couples Counseling at Your Family Counseling Center can help.

Good relationships don’t just happen. So many of us bring into our relationships our dysfunctional patterns, past wounds, cultural programming, and societal expectations which – often without realizing it – we have taken on as our own. The more we become aware of our unconscious scripts, the more we are be able to find and maintain satisfying and happy relationships.

Falling in love inevitably involves a certain amount of projection: we project our hopes, dreams and wishes onto our partners. And it feels wonderful. But the challenges begin with the eventual realization that our projections don’t always sync up with reality. Or as C.G. Jung stated so succinctly, “Love is the dynamism that most infallibly brings the unconscious to light.” Having to navigate the discrepancy between an idealized version of one’s partner – and the actual, real person – is a normal process in every relationship (romantic and non-romantic alike).

The question then becomes: how do we deal with it? I can assist you in recognizing the projections, patterns, and cycles of interaction in which you might be caught in your relationship. Together we will explore new ways of interaction and communication. This can provide you with corrective experiences that allow for a healing of wounds – both yours and your partner’s. Couples therapy is not always easy or comfortable, but the benefits can be profound, and can touch every aspect of your life. Personal growth and a better understanding of your own selves are added benefits of successful couples’ therapy